In the nine years I worked as a professor, I’ve observed judgement all of the time. Students would judge themselves as stupid if they got even a B on their assignment. Being as though I was teaching basic skills courses, students were very judgemental about how they did not needed the course.

For others not to judge us, we grow up trying to fit into certain circles of friends. This creates us to loose who we really are and who we really want to be. We judge other people to fit the roles we expect them to play.

Today I encourage you to be the observer in your classrooms and when you are hanging around your social circles. What are you saying about yourself? What are you saying about other people? The more you judge yourself, the more you judge others.

If you catch yourself judging, don’t judge yourself for that. Just be mindful that today you are setting an intention to not judge anything that occurs throughout your day. The more you practice this you’ll be less judgemental of your teachers. You’ll be able to communicate with your teachers and your social circles much better. Because you have made the decision that right and wrong don’t exists. All that exists is the story being played out in front of you.

Take the non-judgement challenge today!

I’ve always known that people are more likely to quit their job when they do not feel appreciated, rather than for monetary reasons. And then I started thinking about the average college classroom. At both of the colleges I have taught, it always starts off with a classroom full of students for the first couple of weeks, and then all of a sudden, students begin to diappear. Now there are also financial factors that play a role in why this sometimes happens, but I started thinking about appreciation being a factor too.

Anytime I’m collecting an assignment from my students, I always thank them for turning it in. When I conference with them about their essays, I always point out the things they did well, as well as the things they need to improve on. I always ask them how their weekend was or how their day is going.

In return, my students do the same. Most of them show excitement about coming to class, and our classroom ends up being a learning process filled with joy and excitement. My students feel comfortable asking questions because we create an environment in the beginning of the semester that not only do the students appreciate me and I appreciate them, but they also appreciate each other.

Each person in the classroom plays a role well or poorly the class runs. So you do what you can do to show your teachers and classmates that they are appreciated. Even just a simple smile can make a difference.

As a professor, business owner, writer, daughter, sister, aunt and friend, I want to get everything done, sometimes all in one day. Yet, I have learned that when I overload my list of activities, I run myself down—physically and mentally. When I run myself down, I’m unable to perform my activities on the level to which I would prefer.

So each week I make myself a list of priorities, which I call, “My List of Dreams to Fulfill.” Knowing what my overall goals are, I list all the activities I would like to complete in order to fulfill them. I then rank the list in order of priorities. I almost never complete the entire list by the end of each week, but the most important activities that I’ve identified as important are always done. And the activities that I have ranked and not finished are either removed from my list due to its lack of importance or move up in rank for the following week. Allow yourself to be okay completing the top three. That’s an accomplishment wroth of celebration.

Another key to managing your activities is asking for help. You’ll be surprised at how your family and friends really want to be a part of helping you fulfill your dreams. And for my professional business activities, I hire others who specialize in activities they complete far quicker than I would, especially with my busy schedule.
Hiring someone to do your work in college is definitely not a wise idea because, in addition to cheating, you will never know the information yourself. However, seeking extra help from your professor or your school’s tutoring center will allow you to complete your work with more confidence and in a timely manner. If there is someone in your class who seems to understand the material that you may be struggling with, get their contact information and arrange a study session together.

People explain things in different ways. Hearing the information from someone else might give you some clarity and allow you to complete your work in a timely manner. The more you understand, the easier it will be for you to complete your work.

So go ahead and create your own personal “Dreams to Fulfill” list, and seek help from others around you.

Sometimes this can be a scary thing to do because you have known all of your high school friends for four years or more, depending on how long you lived in your school district. But making new friends, who resonate with your personality, will make college a much more wonderful and fun experience.

Start talking to the people in your classes. Join clubs, a sport team, or a organization on campus that you are interested in. Then you’ll meet other people with the same interests as you.

When I was in college, I met a lot of my friends from my cheerleading team. And then I made friends with the friends they were meeting. I’m still very close with my college friends.

Everyone goes to college not knowing what their journey is going to be like. Linking up with like-minded people will give your journey the full college experience.

In the beginning of the semester when I start returning essays back to my students, I always notice that their first set of grades can either become a brutal blow to a student’s self-esteem or a boost of confidence. Either way, your grades do not really say anything about you as a person but serve as an indication of what you need to work on to be successful in your classes.

I have seen students start off well in the beginning of the semester and then slack off because they think they are sure to pass with a high grade in the class. I have also seen students who begin the semester with weak grades and work hard to get really high grades at the conclusion of the semester. Either way, detaching yourself from the grades you get and using them as a tool to help you grow in the learning process is the way to go. It keeps you striving for more to improve on and will prevent you from giving up when things seem a little tough.

Believe it or not, your professors are not expecting you to walk into the classroom knowing everything they have set out to teach you throughout the semester. If that was the case, what would be the point for the students or the professor to even show up to class?

Look at your assignments and exams, see what is working for you and continue doing that. If you notice that something seems tough, go to your professor or your school’s tutoring center for extra help. You can even make a friend with someone else in the class who seems to understand the information you are learning. Everyone explains information differently, so hearing the information you are learning from someone else might just give you the tips you need to move forward successfully.

But by all means, do not give up. You are not your grades. Do your best and remember that your best in each class will differ because some information will be easier for you to learn than other information.

Here are a few things you can do before the school year appears:

1. Take a mini vacation. Whether you go near or far, now is the time to get away before you don’t have time to do so. There are some advance ticket and last minute ticket deals out there, so do your research online and take advantage of the fabulous discounts.

2. Catch some extra z’s. Allow your body to get some rest. The school year sometimes bring around a schedule, which causes you to pull some all nighters. Resting up now will give your body the reserve fuel you might need in a month or so. Even though your body needs the rest, make sure you don’t overdue it. Going to bed at 4 a.m. and sleeping in until 1 p.m. will make it more difficult to adjust your sleep schedule around, especially if you have morning classes. 

3. If you’re not familiar with your school, stop by the campus or building now to find your classes. Not knowing where you are going on the first day only adds anxiety to your first day of meeting new instructors and classmates.

4. Find something you are interested in reading. If you’ve been hanging out all summer, your brain might have gotten used to limited activity. Get it up in gear with starting to read more often. Pick up a last minute summer book, pick up the newspaper, or pick out your favorite magazine.

5. Spend some extra time with friends and family. During the school year, it sometimes becomes a challenge to balance school, work, and your social life. Fit your loved ones in now while you have the time. They’ll be sure to understand when life get busy soon. 

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That setup does not work well in the workplace because your colleagues do not want to pick up your slack, and your employer could possibly give you a poor evaluation or terminate you because of your lack of participation. Prepare to excel in group projects well before college and when you get into your career field.

Everyone, and I mean everyone, has his or her own particular strength. The leader of the group, which is usually obvious in the beginning of the process, should get each member of the group to write down what part of the project interests him or her most. If the interest in each person is identified, that’s usually also that person’s strength. People want to work on things they are good at doing.

Let each person create their own task list for their portion of the project. Set a deadline for the entire group to get together and present that task. These two simple steps will get the project completed without some people participating and others not.

In the workplace, everyone must participate. Employers notice if someone is slacking and who is apt to take the lead role in group projects. Practice being a good team leader now, so you’ll be an excellent team leader in the future.

While I was talking to him about options of balancing between his job and school, he said, “I’m not paying for school anyway.”

I said, “Oh really? What methods do you use to cover your tuition?”

He said, “I’m on financial aid.”

I said,” You do know you have to pay financial aid back….don’t you?”

“No I don’t,” he said,”that’s why it’s called aid.”

Let me dispell the financial aid myths for you right now. This stuff can be extremely confusing for both students and parents. There are three types of financial aid and there are huge differences between each of them.

1. Grants: This is the free money you aren’t responsible for paying back. This free money is usually awarded if you get a scholarship, you have exemplary grades, or you qualify to be in extreme need of the money based on you or your family’s financial situation. You can also get a grant if your employer provides tuition reimbursement.

2. Most students take out loans without even realizing that they’ll have to pay this money back. Popular loans are from Sallie Mae, Stafford, Perkins, and Plus loans. Approximately six months after graduation, the loan companies start sending you bills for the money you owe. The interest rates on these loans are usually rather low. The ideal behind them is that when you graduate, you’ll be able to find a job and pay them back. The loan companies tend to be flexible in working out payment plans, as long as you are responsible in paying on time.

3. Another way to pay for school is to find out any work study your school might have to offer. They don’t normally pay too much, but it’s at least something you are paying off gradually while you are in school, instead of the lump sum you’d be asked to pay six months after graduation.