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Essential Solutions for College Students in Job Market

No one is unaware about the United States economy being in the gutter. The unemployment rate is up and down the scale. And on top of it all, the government has officially shut down.

Regardless of these factors, it seems that college students, for the most part, seem to be surviving relatively well.

“I think it creates a lot of anxiousness,” Jayson Boyers, Managing Director at Vermont’s Champlain College, said about college students. “It raises the stakes for them.”

Boyers said the students he works with are using the conditions of the government as an opportunity. They are looking at starting their own businesses, working with gamming groups, participating in hack-a-thons with businesses, and getting internships much earlier in their college career.

“I think there’s an upside. Students are not taking it as victims,” Boyers said. “I think you’re seeing a line blur between college students and businesses. We’ve got to stop the echo chamber.”

The echo chamber, he explained, is the process of businesses telling colleges and universities what students need to be prepared for when they graduate, the colleges and universities preparing students for these things, businesses changing their standards, and then colleges and universities trying to keep up.

JED Foundation Medical Director, Dr. Victor Schwartz, said that according to last year’s statistics, 15 percent of college students experienced depression, 20 to 25 percent were diagnosed depressed, six to seven percent seriously thought about suicide, 30 to 35 percent were stressed out, and one percent attempted suicide.

While these statistics might seem drastic, Dr. Schwartz said they are actually better than the statistics for people of the same age group who are not enrolled in college with a support system to assist them.

Schools need to do the best they can about providing career opportunities. Those in the college community, Dr. Schwartz went on to suggest, need to identify students who appear to be out of the typical range and who show changes in self-care and behavior. Once these students are identified, they need to be directed to the departments and organizations with the resources to help them.

University of Houston Psychology Professor and Author of newly released book, Your Complete Guide to College Success, Dr. Donald J. Foss, said it still makes sense for students to proceed to college.

“There’s no doubt that students are stressed over money,” Dr. Foss said. “But the average income, the dollars and cents of it all, equals up to over a million bucks over a lifetime.”

To save money, he said, students should not delay their graduation date. Besides the added costs that colleges and universities cost in general, Dr. Foss said, a delayed graduation date will also delay the opportunity of a decent paying job.

In his book, Dr. Foss reveals four key areas college students must work on to be successful. He uses the acronym L.A.S.T., which represent coping with loneliness and isolation, taking action and avoiding alcohol and substance abuse, learning successful studying techniques, and managing time effectively.

For information on group workshops and one-on-one coaching that teaches students to become empowered to pursue their ideal career, visit www.collegiatecareercoach.com or contact Mignon Brooks, Collegiate Career Coach, at (609) 932-0483.

 

 

 

First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Last Monday, a group of us began reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

In the chapter, “Domestication and Dream of the Planet,” we discussed our self-limiting beliefs. These are beliefs we picked up from our families, society, school, work, etc. The reason why they’re self-limiting is because these opinions, or agreements as Ruiz refers to them as, are not really the truth about life and limit us from fully being and expressing ourselves.

Our homework was to read the chapter, “The First Agreement,” and to be conscious of the first agreement throughout the week, which is to be impeccable with your word.

Ruiz defines impeccability as “without sin.” He says, “A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself.”

My favorite part of being a teacher/life coach is that I get the opportunity to share the experience with my class. After reading, “The First Agreement,” I see how I use the word against myself and my capabilities.

I use it when it comes to the things I can and cannot accomplish with my business. I use the word to gossip about others when I do not agree with their opinions. If someone uses the word against me and I agree, there I go again using the word to reject myself. In reality, the poison that person says to me has nothing to do with me, but has everything to do with them.

One example that I’ve encountered many times is at work. If my co-workers have disliked the boss or someone else in the workplace, it captures my attention and then off to the races I go with the belief that the person is whatever someone else said about them.

A couple weeks ago, the timing belt in my car broke. I had only bought the car a month prior to this happening. My cousin, who works on cars, checked the car out before I bought it. When I found out that fixing this timing belt was going to cost me around $3,000 if I’m lucky, I spread the poison to my cousin.

Since then I have apologized, but depending on what mindset he was in when I spread the poison, this could have been completely detrimental to him and what he thought of his abilities. Thankfully, he forgave me and realized that I was having a rough week.

“Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison – to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate,” Ruiz said. The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves.

For me, there are two important actions that lead us to be more impeccable with our word.

The first one is creating positive affirmations with ourselves. When we feel good about ourselves and truly love who we are, we are more patient, tolerant, loving, and open-minded when it comes to others. Creating these positive affirmations can turn around our perspective of what is really ailing us that most on the inside.

The second one is surrounding ourselves around people who have similar goals: to become more spiritually free.

People always thank me for helping them on their journey and are surprised when I thank them. I thank them because they are open-minded to change, which continues to inspire me to do the same.

 

Free Workshop Starts This Monday

Free Workshop Based on The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

 

Mondays, September 9th, 16th, 23rd, and 30th

Time: 1:30 to 3 p.m.

Location: The Recovery Center

108 Somerdale Road

Voorhees, NJ 08043

 

By Completion of this Workshop, You Will Feel Empowered to Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs Through:

 

v   Becoming Impeccable With Your Word

v  Letting Go of Taking Things Personally

v  Ridding Yourself of Making Assumptions

v  Always Practicing to Do Your Best

 

Contact: Mignon Brooks (609) 932-0483 or mignonbrooks@collegiatecareercoach.com

 

Please come equipped with your own book. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz can be found at your local bookstore. Workbooks will be provided for you.

How To Embrace Your Inner Self: Thank you Mr. T

By Bianca Phelps

We all have our stories from school to tell. Some of them are funny; others are sad. What all these stories have in common is that we will remember them for a very long time.

One of my stories that come to mind happened around 6th or 7th Grade.
We were considered the chaos class from my school. The reputation was not very flattering. We were not bad kids, just a bit wilder and expressive than the other students were. For some teachers, that must have been a little intimidating.

When the new school year started, we had a new math teacher. He came straight from grade school. Of course, most girls cultivated a major crush on him. What is more important than that is that he was very open-minded. The other teachers did not influence him about the reputation of our class. He came with fresh ideas and wanted to prove a point.

 If you know how to take the right approach, you can teach anybody anything.

He was more of a friend than a teacher. He used young language and pop culture to connect with us. The class was very enjoyable, and I passed with an A. This comes from someone who could never understand that subject.

More importantly, he taught us to believe in ourselves. To him, it was important that we embrace our true self while getting deserved respect. At the same time, he taught us that the best defense is knowledge and an open mind. Instead of being angry at an opponent, prove him or her wrong.

With that attitude, we started the next school year. You know what happened. The teacher looked at us with different eyes and gave us a chance to show what we able to do.

I want to thank Mr. T for that eye opening experience. I still use his philosophy today. Not just in school, but in my daily life. We tend to judge too fast. I try to be very open minded towards new situations and people.

If you want to proof a point, be a rebel by educating yourself and show how wrong the doubters are with knowledge.

“When the Student Shows Up, The Teacher Appears”

BY MIGNON BROOKS

This week, my interns and I are working on a theme of teachers that have influenced us.

In the classroom, I was always grateful for the English and Journalism teachers….no coincidence because those are where some of my strongest talents exist within me…lol. I was not only influenced by them because they taught the subjects I loved the most. In fact, it was their teaching skills and how tough their expectations of me were that encouraged me to thrive in their classrooms.

As I grow, my teachers show up everywhere. I feel they are messengers of God that are put into my life to teach me a lesson as I flow through this journey of life. The point is that if I’m not an open-minded listener, I will miss the lesson.

Sometimes my teachers are my students. Sometimes my teachers are random people I meet throughout the day and never see again. Sometimes my teachers are people whom have hurt my feelings, teaching me more about myself.

Point blank, I have learned that my greatest teachers in life have been authentic, spiritual, and loving people. But I also have teachers who show me examples of the type of person I do not want to be as a person. I am truly grateful for both.

Each day I pray that I remain teachable. It is not about liking the lesson or not. Just be the awareness of the lesson…the observer of the lesson each teacher is here to show you.

What teachers have you influenced by in your life and what have they taught you?