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First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Last Monday, a group of us began reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

In the chapter, “Domestication and Dream of the Planet,” we discussed our self-limiting beliefs. These are beliefs we picked up from our families, society, school, work, etc. The reason why they’re self-limiting is because these opinions, or agreements as Ruiz refers to them as, are not really the truth about life and limit us from fully being and expressing ourselves.

Our homework was to read the chapter, “The First Agreement,” and to be conscious of the first agreement throughout the week, which is to be impeccable with your word.

Ruiz defines impeccability as “without sin.” He says, “A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself.”

My favorite part of being a teacher/life coach is that I get the opportunity to share the experience with my class. After reading, “The First Agreement,” I see how I use the word against myself and my capabilities.

I use it when it comes to the things I can and cannot accomplish with my business. I use the word to gossip about others when I do not agree with their opinions. If someone uses the word against me and I agree, there I go again using the word to reject myself. In reality, the poison that person says to me has nothing to do with me, but has everything to do with them.

One example that I’ve encountered many times is at work. If my co-workers have disliked the boss or someone else in the workplace, it captures my attention and then off to the races I go with the belief that the person is whatever someone else said about them.

A couple weeks ago, the timing belt in my car broke. I had only bought the car a month prior to this happening. My cousin, who works on cars, checked the car out before I bought it. When I found out that fixing this timing belt was going to cost me around $3,000 if I’m lucky, I spread the poison to my cousin.

Since then I have apologized, but depending on what mindset he was in when I spread the poison, this could have been completely detrimental to him and what he thought of his abilities. Thankfully, he forgave me and realized that I was having a rough week.

“Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison – to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate,” Ruiz said. The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves.

For me, there are two important actions that lead us to be more impeccable with our word.

The first one is creating positive affirmations with ourselves. When we feel good about ourselves and truly love who we are, we are more patient, tolerant, loving, and open-minded when it comes to others. Creating these positive affirmations can turn around our perspective of what is really ailing us that most on the inside.

The second one is surrounding ourselves around people who have similar goals: to become more spiritually free.

People always thank me for helping them on their journey and are surprised when I thank them. I thank them because they are open-minded to change, which continues to inspire me to do the same.

 

Free Workshop Starts This Monday

Free Workshop Based on The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

 

Mondays, September 9th, 16th, 23rd, and 30th

Time: 1:30 to 3 p.m.

Location: The Recovery Center

108 Somerdale Road

Voorhees, NJ 08043

 

By Completion of this Workshop, You Will Feel Empowered to Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs Through:

 

v   Becoming Impeccable With Your Word

v  Letting Go of Taking Things Personally

v  Ridding Yourself of Making Assumptions

v  Always Practicing to Do Your Best

 

Contact: Mignon Brooks (609) 932-0483 or mignonbrooks@collegiatecareercoach.com

 

Please come equipped with your own book. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz can be found at your local bookstore. Workbooks will be provided for you.

Life Skills in Education

About one month ago I went to go present to a board of education as to how important life skills are to be taught in the classrooms. Although many students learn life skills at home, many students do not. The select few of the board that showed up at the meeting told me not to use the words “life skills,” as it relates to education because it has a negative connotation. As an educator, it is my opinion that avoiding life skills in the way we act in the classroom and in the way in the way that we teach is unavoidable. Students, whether in the classroom or outside of it, will encounter changes, decisions, LIFE. Yes, I know wholeheartedly that skills need to be taught. I have had too many college students come into the classroom without basic reading and writing skills. But we cannot just point fingers as to whose responsibility it is to teach what. It takes all of us – parents, educators, mentors, life coaches, guidance counselors, neighbors, etc. The list can go on and on. Instead of pointing fingers, jump in and lend a helping hand to anyone – including yourself. We are all lifetime students.

Take the Risk Your Heart Yearns For

A burning desire in your heart is not something to be ignored. It’s true that each choice we make has a consequence. Sometimes we have to weigh the consequences on each side to be able to figure out the best choice to make.

I recently took the biggest risks of my entire life. Was it easy? Not necessarily a smooth road but definitely worth the bumps and uneasiness I felt making risky choices for my life.

I lived in New Jersey my entire life. I was born there; I grew up there; I went to college there; and I lived my twenties working there. It was great. I was used to my environment. I was able to stay in touch with close friends I’d known my entire life. Although I love New Jersey and the experiences I had there, I wanted to break out of my shell and expand. I told my mother, “The entire world is my home. I have so much to offer it. I need to share my gifts with those who need it.”

So what did I do? I moved to Orlando, Florida, quit my job as a full-time professor, made my coaching business my full-time job, and signed up to work as an adjunct professor at Seminole State College of Florida. Talk about a lot of change in a month!

I talked about doing this for years, but I always came up with excuses as to why it wouldn’t be a good idea. I felt I had more stability at my college in New Jersey. I was one year away from obtaining tenure, and the college made it very clear that I was going to get it. I had an excellent health insurance plan. I had a consistent income. And even with all that I knew I was not following my heart. I did my best, but I knew that my best work would be even better if I followed my dream. Most importantly, I now feel free. I honored my heart. This is one of the best feelings in the world!

How do you feel when you wake up everyday? Are you living the dream you always wanted? You deserve to live the desires of your heart, and the world needs you to express them. Become your dream.

Did You See Turning Around Negative Self Talk on Dream Purposeful Phenomenon Tuesday Night? Catch the Recorded Version Now!

Research shows that a person has anywhere up to 60,000 thoughts per day. The thing about these thoughts of ours is that most of them are the same 60,000 thoughts from day to day. The question is: what are you thinking about?

In our current society, most people’s thoughts are centered around worry, fear, and stress over a variety of topics. We worry about work. We worry about school. We worry about family and other close relationships. And the list could go on. A lot of that worry and fear stems from how we feel about ourselves.

Learn the five steps to building positive affirmations for yourself and your life. Watch the recorded version at http://www.ustream.tv/channel/create-the-career-of-your-dreams-phenomenon.