Tag Archive for 'Life Coach'

The Responsibility Factor

Often times teachers will say their students need to be more responsible. Many students will say that it’s their teacher’s responsibility to make sure that they pass the class. Who’s really responsible?

You are!

Whether you are a teacher or a student, your own responsibility lies within you.

One of my students came into class today without anything – without the textbook, without a pen or pencil, and without any paper or notebook. I asked him, “Where are your things?” He looked at me curiously and said, “At home….”

Just as my blood pressure began to rise over a student coming to class unprepared, I changed my perspective and my reaction. I said,” Well, just like it’s my responsibility to be prepared to teach you, it’s your responsibility to be prepared to learn. It’s like a pact we made when you signed up for the class. So, I’m going to be standing up here doing what I do, and hopefully you can take action right now to be as prepared as you possibly can with the resources around you.”

He said, “What resources? I didn’t bring anything.”

I said, “There are 19 other students in this classroom right now. What items do they have that you don’t have right now?”

He said, “They have everything I don’t have.”

I said, “Okay, so who might be able to help you get what you need?”

Then the lightbulb turned on in his head. He smiled. He asked the girl next to him for paper and a pen. Then he asked her if she could share her book. He raised his hand to answer every question I asked throughout the class period. And he was very eager to pay attention and participate in the discussion.

With both of us fulfilling our end of our own responsibility, learning happened for both of us. He learned his responsibility, and I learned not to let my blood pressure rise in a situation that seemed incomprehensible at the time.

The Answer is in You

A lot of people are always looking for answers outside of themselves, not realizing that every answer they’ve every needed is already there inside of themselves. Sometimes you just need the right question to draw it out. This is the power of having a life coach.

About a month ago I decided to take an online novel writing class. Anytime I share my writing experience as a journalist or express my desire to write a novel, people always say that’s something they have always wanted to do too. So…when I posted my status on Facebook and Twitter that I was going to take this class, I immediately got emails and comments congratulating me. In almost all of the comments sent to me, all of the people expressed a once upon a time interest in writing a novel.

One particular friend pursued the conversation with me a little further. He told me how passionate he was about always wanting to be a novelist and then asked me if I thought he should write a novel. My reply was, “If this is something that you are truly passionate about doing, the question is why AREN’T you doing it?”

Wow! That was all he needed. The next day he said he’s already included a thank you for me in his acceptance speech for the awards he’ll win from his novel. He asked me if I thought that was crazy. I said, “Absolutely not! I’m already ready for the several interviews I’ll have once I get recognition from the Oprah Book Club.”

Anytime I’m thinking about taking on a new project or participating in a new venture, I aways ask myself, “How is this going to compliment the dreams in my heart?” If it won’t, I don’t do it. I think the task is probably meant for someone else. If it does, I move forward.

Think abundantly and stay focused. If you think small, you’ll play small. If you think big, the possibilities are endless. Expect the best with every step of your journey and be mindful of not getting off track.

Which PAIL Are You Holding?

What is your PAIL filled with? Or do you even know?

Your PAIL is the bucket you carry around with you filled with life experiences, or as some might say, life circumstances.

If your PAIL is filled with mostly negative experiences, PAIL stands for Pushing Ahead Into Limbo. Limbo is a state of uncertainty, usually blocking your view by dwelling on the past. This bucket is heavy and drains your energy. It prevents you from building your goals because all of the negative items in your bucket serve as a reminder of why you think you can’t accomplish anything.

If you dump the past into the ocean and let it float away, your PAIL is open for new opportunities. You don’t have junk holding you down. In this case PAIL stands for Preparing Ambitiously Into Life. This state allows you to see the path in front of you clearly and focus on the now moment in your life. Because of the lightness of your bucket, you are able to run, jump, play, and skip through your journey, always remembering to dump the stuff in your PAIL that does not serve or benefit you.

Which PAIL are you working with today? Are you PUSHING AHEAD INTO LIMBO or PREPARING AMBITIOUSLY FOR LIFE? No matter who you are, where you are from, or what you’ve experienced in life, you can always choose to Prepare Ambitiously for Life!


The Importance of Finding Your True Self

Sometimes in life you need to lose yourself to find yourself. This journey to finding your true self is not always easy. In fact, the journey often has plenty of ditches and uneven terrain.

Many people give up during these times of struggle and decide that their goals of being who they really are and want to be is too hard to accomplish. But we need this struggle to find ourselves and live freely. By living freely, we do not need the approval of others to determine what is and is not right for us.

We know we have found our true self when the opinions of others do not matter in the choices we make for ourselves. At this point, confidence is found within.

Why is Finding Your True Self Important in Building Your Career?

Most people spend most of the hours in their day at work. If they do not like their career, this can be absolutely grueling.

Some people pick their career randomly or in a field where they feel they will make a lot of money. Often times these same people get their education, start working, and realize that the career they chose is not for them. This is why many people often work outside of the career fields they chose when they were getting their education.

If more people consciously aligned who they are with what they decide to do for a living, they would enjoy their career much more. In addition, there would be much more enjoyment in each hour that is spent at work.

How Does Getting the Collegiate Career Coach Help You Find Your True Self?

Having your personal career coach will help you figure out who you really are and what is really important to you. This process includes taking a close look at the things you really like to do and connecting these things with the career you choose. Also, it involves taking a close look at your ideal lifestyle and values. Aligning all of this up with your career provides you with direction. It brings you out of the frightening wilderness of uncertainty to your true destiny.