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First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Last Monday, a group of us began reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

In the chapter, “Domestication and Dream of the Planet,” we discussed our self-limiting beliefs. These are beliefs we picked up from our families, society, school, work, etc. The reason why they’re self-limiting is because these opinions, or agreements as Ruiz refers to them as, are not really the truth about life and limit us from fully being and expressing ourselves.

Our homework was to read the chapter, “The First Agreement,” and to be conscious of the first agreement throughout the week, which is to be impeccable with your word.

Ruiz defines impeccability as “without sin.” He says, “A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself.”

My favorite part of being a teacher/life coach is that I get the opportunity to share the experience with my class. After reading, “The First Agreement,” I see how I use the word against myself and my capabilities.

I use it when it comes to the things I can and cannot accomplish with my business. I use the word to gossip about others when I do not agree with their opinions. If someone uses the word against me and I agree, there I go again using the word to reject myself. In reality, the poison that person says to me has nothing to do with me, but has everything to do with them.

One example that I’ve encountered many times is at work. If my co-workers have disliked the boss or someone else in the workplace, it captures my attention and then off to the races I go with the belief that the person is whatever someone else said about them.

A couple weeks ago, the timing belt in my car broke. I had only bought the car a month prior to this happening. My cousin, who works on cars, checked the car out before I bought it. When I found out that fixing this timing belt was going to cost me around $3,000 if I’m lucky, I spread the poison to my cousin.

Since then I have apologized, but depending on what mindset he was in when I spread the poison, this could have been completely detrimental to him and what he thought of his abilities. Thankfully, he forgave me and realized that I was having a rough week.

“Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison – to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate,” Ruiz said. The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves.

For me, there are two important actions that lead us to be more impeccable with our word.

The first one is creating positive affirmations with ourselves. When we feel good about ourselves and truly love who we are, we are more patient, tolerant, loving, and open-minded when it comes to others. Creating these positive affirmations can turn around our perspective of what is really ailing us that most on the inside.

The second one is surrounding ourselves around people who have similar goals: to become more spiritually free.

People always thank me for helping them on their journey and are surprised when I thank them. I thank them because they are open-minded to change, which continues to inspire me to do the same.


Free Workshop Starts This Monday

Free Workshop Based on The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz


Mondays, September 9th, 16th, 23rd, and 30th

Time: 1:30 to 3 p.m.

Location: The Recovery Center

108 Somerdale Road

Voorhees, NJ 08043


By Completion of this Workshop, You Will Feel Empowered to Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs Through:


v   Becoming Impeccable With Your Word

v  Letting Go of Taking Things Personally

v  Ridding Yourself of Making Assumptions

v  Always Practicing to Do Your Best


Contact: Mignon Brooks (609) 932-0483 or mignonbrooks@collegiatecareercoach.com


Please come equipped with your own book. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz can be found at your local bookstore. Workbooks will be provided for you.

How To Embrace Your Inner Self: Thank you Mr. T

By Bianca Phelps

We all have our stories from school to tell. Some of them are funny; others are sad. What all these stories have in common is that we will remember them for a very long time.

One of my stories that come to mind happened around 6th or 7th Grade.
We were considered the chaos class from my school. The reputation was not very flattering. We were not bad kids, just a bit wilder and expressive than the other students were. For some teachers, that must have been a little intimidating.

When the new school year started, we had a new math teacher. He came straight from grade school. Of course, most girls cultivated a major crush on him. What is more important than that is that he was very open-minded. The other teachers did not influence him about the reputation of our class. He came with fresh ideas and wanted to prove a point.

 If you know how to take the right approach, you can teach anybody anything.

He was more of a friend than a teacher. He used young language and pop culture to connect with us. The class was very enjoyable, and I passed with an A. This comes from someone who could never understand that subject.

More importantly, he taught us to believe in ourselves. To him, it was important that we embrace our true self while getting deserved respect. At the same time, he taught us that the best defense is knowledge and an open mind. Instead of being angry at an opponent, prove him or her wrong.

With that attitude, we started the next school year. You know what happened. The teacher looked at us with different eyes and gave us a chance to show what we able to do.

I want to thank Mr. T for that eye opening experience. I still use his philosophy today. Not just in school, but in my daily life. We tend to judge too fast. I try to be very open minded towards new situations and people.

If you want to proof a point, be a rebel by educating yourself and show how wrong the doubters are with knowledge.

Did You See Turning Around Negative Self Talk on Dream Purposeful Phenomenon Tuesday Night? Catch the Recorded Version Now!

Research shows that a person has anywhere up to 60,000 thoughts per day. The thing about these thoughts of ours is that most of them are the same 60,000 thoughts from day to day. The question is: what are you thinking about?

In our current society, most people’s thoughts are centered around worry, fear, and stress over a variety of topics. We worry about work. We worry about school. We worry about family and other close relationships. And the list could go on. A lot of that worry and fear stems from how we feel about ourselves.

Learn the five steps to building positive affirmations for yourself and your life. Watch the recorded version at http://www.ustream.tv/channel/create-the-career-of-your-dreams-phenomenon.

Missed the Discussion on Making Tough Decisions and Turning Challenges Into Opportunities? Catch the Recorded Version Now!

On Tuesday, July 20th, The Dream Purposeful Phenomenon gave tips and examples of how to effectively make tough decisions and how to turn challenges around into opportunities. Missed the show? No problem. Catch the recorded version right here.